New boyfriend still on dating site
I emailed him and asked him why he was still on the site.I told him I was sad, hurt, disappointed, angry and taken for a ride. I must admit I did check the site on occasion to double check the profile was definitely not there. I took my profile off almost immediately, but his profile was still on the site, I gave him the benefit of the doubt and I didn’t want to mention it initially, but finally he made his profile invisible after a few weeks.But after a few months into our relationship, I did a random check and his profile was visible again.But he seemed to be checking it only every few days.It gives their ego’s the reassurance that they’ve still got ‘it’, that they’re still ‘out there’, and they’re not ‘tied down’.
Guys who shop around online whilst still dating or hunting are trying you out before they buy.It is tedious and boring when men use ‘needy’ to absolve themselves of having to do the decent thing.All of a sudden, she’s needy and he has legitimised his dubious behaviour.I was very distressed and didn’t know how to approach him.As when he was with me everything seemed fine, he was also mentioning moving in together and buying a house down the track. He did have issues, as his long-term partner had left him a year a go, and he had just finished the settlement and child support arrangements.